RULE No. 1: No Dying
A true story of kidnapping, rape, and attempted murder, Rule No. 1: No Dying takes you on a journey through the neuroscience of trauma to decode the brain's three primal rules, showing you exactly how to break out of survival mode and turn your trauma into your greatest superpower.
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True crime meets cutting-edge neuroscience.
Rule No. 1: No Dying is a bold, witty, and deeply human journey
into the neurobiology of trauma.
Surviving kidnapping, rape and attempted murder at 37 years old, wasn’t Arci Grey’s first traumatic experience. In fact, trauma had been ruining her whole life. It had been sabotaging her relationships, derailing her career, destroying her health, and shattering her sense of self since she was child. And she had no idea that it had set her up to walk straight into the scenario that almost ended it all.
After years of living in Freddy Krueger's version of Ground Hog Day, stuck in a cycle living from one crisis to the next, she knew that if something didn’t change she wouldn’t survive the next time.
Learning very quickly that healing doesn’t happen 1-hour a week in a therapist's office, Arci was determined to regain control of her life, so she went right to the source: the brain!
Instead of recycled therapy clichés, she dives straight under the hood to explore the brain’s three primal rules that actually govern our lives. Grounded in accessible neuroscience, Arci breaks down why our mental health is actually more neurobiology than psychology and why most approaches to healing trauma are like taking the batteries out of the smoke detector instead of putting out the fire.
Equal parts gripping memoir and hilarious reality check, this book decodes the neurobiology behind why we can't seem to get our shit together, and what it actually takes to unlock post-traumatic growth.